It seems like so many of us are searching for answers. The irony of that is we are the ones that have the answers. But instead of looking inside of us for them, we seek them from others or expect them to come to us and spend a lot of time waiting for them.
It is easier to seek them from others then to take the responsibility of our own. Many times we feel others might know better than us or are wiser than us. And again the irony of this is that we are the ones that have to live with the answers, not the others. Why would we want to follow a live lead by others instead of one lead by our own heart and head?
And waiting for the answers to come to us can sometimes keep us from living our lives. Patience is a good thing to have and waiting to hear what your heart is telling you in seeking the answers is the right thing to do. But when we wait, sometimes too long for them, we begin to live our lives in reaction of what happens to us instead of choosing our actions. And isn’t that living a life that isn’t in your control? Seeking answers should not be used as a crutch to stop us from making choices.
Finding the answers is a choice. Those that seek them are the thoughtful ones in life that care enough to seek direction from wisdom instead of chance. By choosing to find the answers inside of you, you are listening to your own wisdom and your own heart. When you can do this and take out the fear then you are living your life…your best life.
Fear is a powerful thing that tries to stop us from finding our answers. It stops us from getting close to someone in fear of getting hurt. It stops us from taking risks in case we fail. It stops us from trusting someone so we can’t be let down. It can stop us from loving someone because love didn’t work out for you in the past and you just don’t know if you can live through that disappointment again. And the biggest irony of it all, is that fear is trying to protect you but ends up leaving you with a life that is lonely and isolated if we listened to it, which in the end hurts us even more.
Fear also makes everything feel and seem complicated. If you can take away the fear you can see that the answers are simple. It is your choice to get close to someone and your life can be richer from that. It is your choice to take a risk and if you succeed or fail you will learn something valuable in life either way. It is your choice to trust someone and in return you may be blessed with them trusting you too. And it is your choice to love someone, and you can decide to take that risk because you deserve to be loved and to love someone again.
So maybe the bigger quest is asking ourselves the questions instead of the answers? What do I want? What am I waiting for? Why don’t I just go for it? What have I got to lose? What can I do today because I am not afraid to live?
If we can be brave and make choices and be humble to learn from all of them, think of the lives we would be blessed with? A life filled with no regrets, with love received and given, with gain from risk and loss, with wisdom from our experiences and with happiness knowing that we are living this amazing life we have been given. Now that is something to be thankful for.
Until next time,
Christy
